Sunday, November 29, 2009

Have a heart...of wisdom

Today I'm kicking off with the new 'Have a heart - discipling our children today for tomorrow' blog series. I'll be posting a prompt and sharing something with you about having a heart of....each time. At the end of the post you'll have a chance to join in by leaving your blog address in the Mr Linky box and it will automatically link us to your post share too. Please join in!

Have a heart...of WISDOM

Do you have days like this? I was barely awaking out of a deep sleep when I heard the baby crying in the monitor. My brain was trying to engage and I remember thinking, 'quick...up baby crying'. But before I could get down there, my four year old helper Ethan had dragged the bathroom stool in to the side of the cot and gotten out baby himself! He presented her to me at the side of my bed while I was slowly coming to. By this stage of course she was crying because it wasn't her milk-bar mama but her brother and quite frankly he just doesn't have the goods! lol :)

'Eth', I snapped unnecessarily, 'You should have just left her!' Poor little devestated Ethan went from being so proud at having helped to spirit-squashed from my early morning berating.

'But she was crying and she wanted you so I brought her.' Ethan cried.

Baby still crying.

Barely six year old Elijah wakes up and wanders down to our room, almost yelling, 'Ethan, your crying woke me up!' and he too begins to wail.

Stassi, our apt seven year old says, 'Can you make porridge this morning mum?' to which I respond back with some nasty comment about children being selfish and can''t they see that I've just woken up and am trying to feed the baby, and etc, etc, etc ..........

It's not even 7.30am and I have managed to have almost all my children in bed with me, crying and devestated when all they wanted was love, grace and a kind cuddly 'good morning sweethearts!'

Oh how that could have all been avoided if I had just said, 'Ethan, thank you for carrying in bubba so gently to me. Next time, can you please come and wake me before you get her up if you hear her crying and then we can go together.' Since his love language is quality time, I know he would have JUMPED at the chance to go and get bubba up TOGETHER with me.

What I really needed in that moment was wisdom - the wisdom to know how to be gracious when all i could do was squint and clumsily remove the sleep from the corners of my eye!

If i possessed such wisdom naturally within myself, then I would have called on it that morning. But the truth is I don't natually possess it. It comes freely from my Father when I ask Him and how willing He is to give it!

James 3:17-18 says this...

"But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness".

As I (we) raise our children, Brett + I are crying out to the Lord to give us His heavenly wisdom so that we can know how and when to be considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Who wouldn't want to be like that in these kinds of situations?

I have needed His wisdom to know when to speak and what to say to our kids. I've needed wisdom to know when to hold my tongue and be silent, whether or not to allow a child to go to a play date or not, whether or not to take that parenting advice on board. I need His wisdom to know which activities they should be spending their time on, which TV shows/dvds to say yes to watching, which homeschooling activties to partake in, how to have fun with them, how to speak their love language in a way that shows them I really love them and how to discipline them too among many other things.

Of course I am not always and man am I thankful for the forgiveness that is mine all because of Jesus' sacrifice! I am able to acknowledge my weaknesses and failings in front of my children. Our children get to see what it is like to forgive others. We acknowledge our mistakes and sin to our kids, ask them for their forgiveness and give great big huge hugs and kisses when it is all over. When our kids wrong each other, part of the process is to come together with that other person saying what we did wrong and asking, 'Can you please forgive me?' It is so good to see them release each other and 'show love' (have a hug) and it all be over and done with!

I can't go even one day of parenting on my own. If we wish to disciple these beautiful charges He has given us, then we need to go to THEIR Maker and ask how HE would like them to be raised in the moment to moment situations. We need His Wisdom! Of course He has also given us a great guide book (the Bible) to help us along the way but in those times when you don't know what to do, call on Him and ask Him to impart that James 3 wisdom to you. I'm going to keep at it asking even (especially!) in the thick of it all!

If you are wanting to take part in sharing this discipling journey then...

1. Copy and paste the code for the 'have a heart' button>>>into your blog post (html code part of the post)

2. Write about a time when you didn't have God's wisdom in a situation with your kids

3. Write about how it could have been different if you HAD had His wisdom!

4. Pray and ask for His wisdom in your daily parenting (I'm praying and asking for it too for me and you too my dear blogging friends!!!)

5. Share any verses about wisdom you might find encouraging. Check out Proverbs 4 verses 5-7 and Philippians 1:9-11.

6. Add your details into the Mr Linky box (it might take a few moments to load into the post) so we can be linked to you and encouraged by what you share too :)

Questions? Comments? Post them here :)

Love to you all as we join together to lift one another up before the Lord in this journey of parenting :)

Lusi x


Peta said...

I am feeling a bit speechless right now - your post is just what i needed this morning - AND the fact that I have been a slack blogger friend and havent been on for a while - and your beautiful music is back to fill me :)
thankyou Lusi - just for being YOU!!!

Jasmine said...

Wow Lus!!! Do you know how many times I've berated myself and felt so inadequate for not having wisdom when dealing with the kids??? That scripture from James is key isn't it - wisdom comes from heaven - OF COURSE!!! I just need to remember to ask for it... Thank you so much for opening your heart to God and sharing your insight with us. As you already know - this is all SO timely for me.
Love Jas xx

caz1975 said...

Oh my goodness I could fill pages with all the times I got it wrong!!!!! I am just so thankful that I can go to God when I need His peace to fill me so that I'm not passing on my own 'stuff' to my kids, and I'm so thankful that God is a healer and mender of hearts, both mine and the precious little ones He has entrusted to me.

I don't have time for a long blog post today but will take up your challenge when I can (and also when I can figure out the linking etc, I'm not very computer savvy)
Carolyn :-)

Tara said...

Thanks so much for this post Lusi. It was a reminder to me yesterday when I was tempted to grump and huff and get cross at my kiddies to find a wiser way for me to behave.

The kids had been playing 'cities' built out of plastics and tupperware on the bench and I'd allowed water to be added into the fun 'if they were careful'.

The kitchen bench, the floors, the chairs and inside the cupboards all got a good rinsing.

My initial reaction was anger and frustration. But at the crossroads of getting in a stinky or being a bit wiser I was reminded by having read your post earlier in the day.

They helped me clean up and it was much better!

Thanks Lusi, Thanks Father. :)


lusi said...

Thanks to each of you for your encouraging comments.

Tara, I am so praising God with you that He helped you make a different choice in that situation mate. I've made the other choice way too many times but have really been more mindful in the moment to ask Him for help....and He has given it every single time! How faithful He is even when I'm not.
Thanks mate so much for sharing - my heart is so encouraged from reading what you wrote mate. I'm praying for all of us, that He will make us more like Him. I so want to be more like Him!
Love Lus x


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