On Ethan's birthday (saturday) it was also our 11th wedding anniverary!
Brett's sis and parents kindly offered to take the 4 older kiddos for a sleepover for us so that we could have a special time together (with Zeeki of course!)
That was such a lovely treat!
So on Friday night, we dropped the kids off and went to our fave Thai spot and got some take out.
We put Zeeki to bed and then sat down and enjoyed some special time together.
The next day the kiddos headed back over and we all enjoyed a lovely celebratory bbq for Ethi's lunch.
Before they came back though, while I was cooking (and burning!) Ethan's cake, Brett and I enjoyed reflecting on and talking about the past 12.5 years we've been together.
We recalled memorable moments, challenging times and special experiences that have bonded us as a couple and as a family in a way that we could never have expected.
We laughed and cried as we rememberd and gave thanks to Yah for His love and provision to us.
This morning I was listening to a programme that was talking about the increase in divorce rates in those who had been married for 25 years and then as the nest empties, realise that they are no longer 'in love' and go their separate ways. One of the reasons the 'expert' wanted to talk about this was because she said if you can encourage people to invest NOW in their relationships, it might help them to not drift apart down the track.
One thing I love about my relationship with Brett is that (although it's not perfect!) we still love to laugh together. We make a real effort to spend time together and not just live parralel lives. Sometimes the only time we can manage together is when the kiddos are all in bed and we settle down for a special night on the couch watching a movie or chatting or playing cards. We talk about our hopes for the future and pray together for our family and about the everyday situations we find ourselves in. Sometimes I just talk about how overwhelming I'm finding the kids' behaviour, or Brett will talk about a work (or lack thereof!) situation. The point is, that we share it together. We used to try and solve each other's problems but we've learnt that often it's better just to listen to each other. Sometimes when I'm out, I'll pick up a special treat that Brett loves to eat or he'll tell me to go and have a bath on my own and will bring me a platter of cheese, olives and crackers. Sometimes it's as simple as the two of us holding off to eat our dinner until the kids have eaten and are in bed and then we sit down, light some candles and just eat dinner together. That doesn't happen often because we LOVE sitting together as a family. But every now and then, it's just what we need.
All these measures are things that we are doing now to invest in our relationship for the future.
My life is richer for knowing and loving you Brett.
I love you mate with all my heart.
Happy 11th Anniversary.
Here's to many, many more!
Love Lus x